Ada Vice

A friend of mine called upon me for a sketch check.

She innocently stumbled upon a pornographic short film starring her current casual encounter/filler, non-exclusive,label-free boyfriend on his cell phone with requisite sound effects while he was showing her some candid shots of her(completely clothed--shots you'd show mom).

Before assuaging her fears, I insisted on quoting Spiderman's uncle, "With great power comes great responsibility!"
More than the worry that my ab flab would jiggle in what could never be a flattering manner, the reason I have never let a boy takes (sans face requests denied) photos of my non-svelte physique is the lack of trust. I've had one "I trust you implicitly" relationship (yes, with V) but the idea of that trust extending into old age and drunken stupors in this age of digital communication always kept my sketch factor in check.

Back to my friend's problem...as an aspiring advice columnist I say this:

Dear Sketch Checker,
First questions first, did the girl look like she was having fun? Secondly, was he having fun?
Ok, seriously, how long ago was this video shot? Was it a spoof of some sort? Was he really starring or just shooting? We won't judge which is more disturbing! Was the heroine aware of her audience? Did she sign a waiver allowing previews to the general public?

Alright, in all seriousness now: do you care because you are jealous? If so, have an honest conversation: unearth facts, determine your status with this suitor and most importantly decide whether or not you are alright with him having this tete-a-tete on his phone. If you have moral issues with this, jump ship now--this guy isn't for you.
Do you care because this is "just plain sketchy"? If this the case re-evaluate how much what you have with this guy matters to you. If he was never going to be meeting "Mom and Dad", do you really care what he does when he's not with you? If you're this much of a prude, should you really be with this guy?

The public service announcement section of this column will follow: Be safe.
Always use protection if you are in a non-monogamous sexual realtionship.
Remember boys and girls, things other than intercourse count in the "exchange of bodily fluid/disease transmission" category.

Good luck!
Ada Vice

Remember: Judge only as harshly as you wish to be judged.